In the 2nd part of this series, Relationship Benefits of Holiday Gifts , we talked about The Five Love Languages and how they relate to relationship building. In this post we will talk about the 3rd benefit of giving gifts, as described by Bernadette Dimitrov as “expressing feelings” (see Psychological Benefits of Holiday Gifts
Giving gifts, Dimitrov states, is a way to express and show feelings especially if you are not comfortable expressing them through words. Giving is an opportunity to express a whole range of feelings such as gratitude, appreciation and thanks.
In The Five Love Languages Dr. Chapman identifies “Words of Appreciation” as one of the love languages. This love language includes statements that express words of love, adoration, appreciation and devotion — a simple “Thank you for being there for me” or “Dinner was so wonderful”, may be just what you’re longing for, if this is your primary love language. This may feel a little awkward at first for those who are not comfortable expressing their feelings aloud.
Expressing yourself to your loved one with either a letter under the Christmas tree or a love note of gratitude rolled into a Christmas tree ornament will surprise and delight those that long for that gesture. A custom coupon book redeemable for kind acts and/or words that express appreciation may be the perfect gift under many decorated Christmas trees. Remember, Christmas decorating ideas and gifts come in many shapes, sizes and words!
Christmas tree ornaments inscribed with words have become very popular. Write words of appreciation and love and tape a note to the word such as the word “Faith” (Example: Honey — I have faith in you and our love, with a heart or XO XO at the end) or for the word “Hope” (I hope you know how much I appreciate everything you do… You amaze me!) The ideas are endless, think about it — I am sure you will come up with your own way to express yourself for your partner and loved ones.
Holiday Gifts: Quality Time Part 4