Did you know that giving holiday gifts creates happiness and psychological health? As we perform that act of generosity it nourishes love in our relationships and builds the human spirit. Bernadette Dimitrov noted that “research shows that people who give without expectation and who do not feel diminished by the act of giving are the most psychologically healthy in our society today.
She mentions seven benefits of giving holiday gifts:
- Builds Relationships (reinforcing appreciation and acknowledgment)
- Deepens Relationships (expressing more of who we are)
- Expresses Feelings (such as gratitude, appreciations and thanks)
- Creates Memories (as a symbol of our love)
- Creates Predictability (the ritual of giving)
- De-stressor ( takes focus off ourselves and creates balance)
- Creates Miracles (reinforces love in all our lives when we give for the greater good)
Giving reinforces appreciation and acknowledgments of each other. Having related that, have you ever been given a Christmas gift that really didn’t belong under the Christmas tree for you? We can be gracious all day long and grateful for the thoughtful gesture, but with all the gratitude of a loving heart — you still don’t have a clue what you would do with the Christmas gift!
We often times give to others what we wish we could buy for ourselves or think they need. I don’t know about you, but when the Christmas tree ornaments are on the Christmas tree and the fireplace mantel is adorned to emit holiday cheer, I want to know that the relationship I am nurturing by giving a gift is accompanied by something that reinforces love and builds the bond of a treasured relationship. The point of this is that when we give without expecting anything in return we create true spiritual and psychological health.
What if your partner has a problem with spending money and you enjoy gifts? We will discuss the five love languages and the relationship building aspect of Holiday Gifts in Part 2.